Can i download a ps3 buddy list icon?

May be...

No not yet. I read on one of the playstation forums that in a later update will allow you to download your own ps3 buddy icon

I have a ps3 and i have never heard of a buddy list so don't count on it

I dont know how you could own a ps3 and not know what they are talking about.I dont know if you can but would aslo like to know because there isnt an option to download one that I have ever seen.

I dont think you can. I guess we're stuck with the ones they gave us.